Your Myth & Your Path
Hey guys!
It’s no coincidence that I posted a series on healthy-living bloggers and how each person pursued her health in her own unique way. See, I’m reading Joseph Campbell’s Pathways to Bliss: Mythology and Personal Transformation and, while it’s overarching concept is the mythological tradition — and I can’t vouch for its anthropological or historical accuracy — its goal, I think, is to take the tradition of myth and encourage each individual to find her personal journey to happiness.
Campbell’s famous catchphrase “Follow Your Bliss” can seem a little kitschy, but it’s an important and invaluable reminder. Following one’s bliss has a lot to do with uncovering the belief system (or myths) that have been ingrained since childhood, perpetuated in society, and then personally constructed. The ultimate goal is finding one’s place within them and then building her own path outside of them. I hope that doesn’t seem obscure. Just remember all those “coming of age” stories you’ve read, or recall scenes in movies where a young college-bound boy, for example, sits in a room covered in Yale propaganda and has to decide how to tell his overbearing parents that he wants to go to public school. Same thing.
One of the things I find most compelling about Campbell’s book so far, is the call-to-action — “what I’ve found is that any mythic tradition can be translated into your life, if it’s been put into you. And it’s a good thing to hang on to the myth that was put in when you were a child, because it is there whether you want it there or not. What you have to do is translate that myth into its eloquence, not just into the literacy. You have to learn to hear its song.”
Granted — it’s a very soft-spoken call to action. But I think it’s an urgent one. I think for so much of my life I’ve tried, both consciously and subconsciously, to erase the past. Addictive behaviors like coping with food, for example, are methods to detract — they’re ways to remove oneself from dealing with situations emotionally, and I’ve spent a lot of my life repressing those emotions, refusing to look (and scared to look) deeply into my own beliefs and what was fueling my actions.
For me, it’s been very emotionally challenging to go through such a physical transformation while simultaneously going through a mental one. It’s like trying to make your place and assert your adulthood when your physical appearance is a shape-shifter. Ok, I exaggerate, but sometimes it felt (feels) that way.
I recently conducted an activity where I sat with pen and paper and literally drew out my family genealogy, tied people together with marriage, and children, then signaled divorce and deaths. When focusing on my immediate family I thought about patterns of behavior and asked, “what would we have to believe for that to become a pattern”? You might be surprised at what you find. I question why I had not done this sooner — some things are just so obvious that until we see them written down we take them for granted. I saw example after example of broken marriages. Example after example of verbal abuse. You wonder why you had not yet pieced these patterns together if only to see that you can remove yourself from them and create your own.
As children, our family life is very much the mythic tradition we are raised into. We can’t yet extrapolate how our parents, who perpetuate certain belief systems, came to believe what they do, what perpetuates the belief, why they choose to relate to them, etc. — we simply know these beliefs as our own tradition.
It’s when we get older that we start to question, that we start to see a transparency, and that we are able to take these relationships to pen and paper (even if just metaphorically) and extract the beliefs and the foundation on which they were built.
I encourage you guys to really try to uncover your patterns of thought — the patterns that have led to your current belief system. And ask yourself what it is you truly believe. You might be shocked to find that your actions actually speak more to your beliefs than you do when prompted to state them.
And I’ll leave you with this lovely Campbell quote: “Where there’s a way or a path, it is someone else’s path; each human being is a unique phenomenon. The idea is to find your own pathway to bliss.”
It seems hard at first to break from convention, to deviate from the expectations placed upon us, but going after your own happiness is actually the easiest thing to do. Following the expected route is really the route to perennial hardship.
Be free.
<3,
The Cranky One

































