What is a ‘Real’ Woman?
Edited
You’ve all probably already seen the picture of model Lizzi Miller in Glamour Magazine below:

If you didn’t happen to catch her on the Today Show this morning, you can watch the video here, or read about here. The picture has garnered a lot of press, especially in light of Self Magazine’s over-zealous photoshopping of my beloved Kelly Clarkson (in an issue discussing “full body confidence” of all things! talk about about comedic irony!); see here.
So what’s all the hoopla surrounding Lizzi’s picture in Glamour? Well, mainly it’s the fact that a woman with a belly appears in a main stream magazine without being photoshopped or with the qualifiers “pregnant” or “fat” attached to her description. It’s odd that even today we are shocked to see women with meat on their bodies being shown in a positive and natural light, gracing the page right next to Olsen twin look-alikes who so often pervade our magazines. While Lizzi was not on the cover (she was on page 194, to be exact), it gives a lot of women hope that they will be able to see a more diverse range of body shapes represented so gracefully throughout their mags. Given the innate (perhaps subconscious) desire to relate to the women in magazines, to find our look-alikes represented as beautiful, it seems that any step to showcase a diverse array of women is a step in creating more healthy attitudes towards what “beautiful” is.
While I was *super* stoked to see a “plus-sized” model in a magazine outside of the “plus-sized” magazine niche, I have to admit that all of the attention paid to Lizzie made me hyper conscious of two things I am a bit uncomfortable with.
One — Lizzi is just plain gorgeous and she doesn’t need the qualifying words “plus-sized” thrown in front of the description “model.” Am I the only one who looks at her and is like, “uhh what is so ‘plus-sized’ about her?” I also wonder why she couldn’t just as well have graced the cover. Of course I’m being cranky and knit picky (see my blog title, it’s my right).
Two — I get a little irked when these two words are thrown around in conjunction: real + woman(en). I can’t tell you how many people have commented that Lizzi is a “real woman” or that finally a “real woman” is represented. I mean I get what everyone is trying to say, I’m not playing dumb here. I get that the majority of women in the U.S. are size 12-14, which is Lizzi’s size, but I really don’t like when any chick is heralded as being representative of THE “real woman.” Using that sort of diction favors one type of woman in exclusion of another. Sure, most grown women are not a size 2. But according to stats, most women are not a size 20 either – so obviously if we use the average as our gauge for normalcy we’re excluding women on both sides of the size spectrum. But no woman should be less (or even more “real”) based solely on her size and where she fits in terms of the U.S. average, right? All women aren’t white and blonde either, ya know what I mean? We can’t say we want body acceptance, and then exclude a portion of women for not being “real” enough. What I’m trying to defend is the right for ALL women to feel beautiful and adequate. I guess that’s the challenge inherent in any form of representation. No woman is ever going to truly represent ALL of us and maybe the lesson here is we shouldn’t be looking for physical “representation” in the first place? I have yet to see my reflection of a half Caucasian, half Costa Rican, fro-maned chick, with a crooked smile gracing covers yet — but that’s cool
I thought it was interesting and important to note that in Lizzi’s video segment she made a point to remark that she was active and healthy. I think that’s the key in all of this. We want “healthy” women gracing our magazines as model representatives. Do I have it wrong? What is a “real woman” to you? Does Lizzi represent that? Do you feel adequately represented in today’s mainstream woman’s magazines? Do you want to be?
Noteworthy In the News/Blogs (A LOT OF SHIZ!)
- Time Magazine’s, “Getting Real About the High Price of Cheap Food” (8/21/09) here — GREAT READ!
- Science Daily’s, “Young Women Consistently Exercise Less than Young Men, Study Finds” (8/23/09) here
- Science Daily’s, “How We Support Our False Beliefs” (8/23/09) here
- New Scientist’s, “Expanding Waistlines May Cause Shrinking Brains” (8/23/09) here
- Diet Blog’s “Five Ways to Tame Post-Workout Hunger” (8/24/09) here
- That’s Fit’s, “Vegetarian Options Rising in Schools” (8/24/09) here
- That’s Fit’s, “‘Secret Lives of Women: Extreme Diets’: How Extreme Are they?” (8/24/09) here
- Calorie Lab’s, “PETA Pulls Save the Whales Ad” (8/24/09) here — If you recall here, I wrote about the ridiculous ad by PETA that insinuated chubby beach babes (or “whales”) could lose some weight by going vegetarian. More than finding it offensive, I found it was misleading given that going vegetarian in and of itself will not cure anyone of a weight issue. I even found it a bit harmful given that studies have shown teenagers who go veg sometimes choose that lifestyle to mask eating disorders. Anyhow, the ad has been pulled. Now go call PETA and tell them they should focus on the ethical treatment of people first so that they may then adequately save the animals.
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Tags: Glamour Magazine, Kelly Clarkson, lizzi miller, lizzie miller, PETA, plus-sized, real women, Self Magazine, vegetarian food in schools

16 People have left comments on this post
I totally agree that she is beautiful and does not look pregnant of fat. However, do you know if she recently had a baby? I kinda just looks like she has a lil extra skin…
I think what I take the meaning of ‘real woman’ is really what is the average woman. Yes, there are size 0 and 2 women out there who are real, just as there are women size 40 who are real. However, what is pictured in media, print, internet or whatever is a *disproportionate* amount of tiny women shown as the ideal that the rest of us should look like. Real woman to me means what the majority of a bell curve of women’s sizes would be, which happens to be what the model above is. She is representative of the majority of women. It would be nice to see more people modeling clothes, wearing makeup, doing things that show how the average woman looks doing these things. Like why have a plus-sized catalog with all the clothes on thin women? I don’t get it.
I love this photo, and while I get what you’re saying….I have to agree a bit more with Lori. They say that only a minor percentage (2%? 3%?) of women actually are near the proportions of the models most commonly used in the media. That’s how we get that the average woman is a size 12-14. I think the big deal is that Lizzie is definitely more representative of the average, rather than the outlier, although by putting her in the magazine, she now becomes the outlier in and of herself.
Which is a bit confusing and contradicting, if you know what I mean.
I do not feel represented by women’s magazines, nor do I feel I ever will be. But that’s okay – I don’t expect to see a half-white, half-Puerto Rican w/ crazy hair and a chubster face. ;o)
She is absolutely gorgeous! And brave!
I agree with you on the “real woman” issue. We are all real women (even Caster Semenya). What we want to see more of is realistic pictures of average-sized women.
**sigh** she is gorgeous.
lovely.
amazing.
A BABY STEP.
anywhere near plus sized? methinks not.
i am floored by this — Lizzie is an absolutely gorgeous representation of what healthy woman do and should look like – she is stunning and i’m thrilled to hear that magz are getting the picture that thin is so overrated!
thanks for discussing this, Annabel.. it really hit home for me!
i saw this picture too and love it – the woman is gorgeous and her belly spills over, really, whose doesn’t? that is real.
thanks for posting this – i wanted to post something about the kelly clarkson thang because the way lucy the editor responded was outrageous. soooo i am glad you put something like this up – much love girl!
I hadn’t seen this picture. That’s about how my tummy looks (she didn’t happen to lose a bunch of weight did she?). She is gorgeous and brave and I’m happy to see someone who is a more “average” size in a magazine, but I think saying that she is a REAL woman when a size 0 isn’t? I know a few stick skinny girls that would love to gain some weight but can’t, and it’s just as bad for them as overweight people who can’t lose.
Not saying there are as many in that situation of course, but I think that unreal is when they have those photoshop monstrosities… it’s to the point where I think all magazine images are ’shopped.
I read about that photo and when I saw it my first thought was, “she’s FAT?” I mean, really – she’s got a little pooch, big deal! She’s gorgeous, to be sure.
I agree about the whole “real woman” thing – what quantifies “real” vs. “unreal”?
I agree with all.. I don’t think she is plus size at all & don’t most all of us have the lower tummy crap. We can stand up & hold it in or spanx it in but when we sit or lean over, it is there! She is beautiful!
I agree with one commenter that said we need to see more realistic pics of average sized people rather than all this super thin stuff. Nobody can live up to that!
We are all real women… But, I do understand the terminology because women are held to certain standards in the movies & on TV.
I think she looks amazing! I don’t think I would classify her as plus-sized, either, but hey, at least it’s a step in the right direction! When would you EVER see a model who isn’t a size 0 in all her naked glory in a mag???
She’s really pretty, but to me she just looks like a skinny woman who had a baby at some point. I mean she doesn’t have fat anywhere–if she had a tummy tuck for the skin, she’d basically look like any other naked magazine woman.
I guess maybe what people mean when they refer to “real women” being curvy is that size 12 or 14 is average, and many celebrities would be larger if they didn’t have the time and money to invest in special diets, trainers, work-outs, and surgery. Some people do maintain their thin and perfect looks in a way that is not accessible to the general public. In that regard, I guess they are not “real.”
But for all the air-brushed celebrities and starving models out there, there are plenty of size 0-10 and 16-30 women out there who don’t do anything out of the ordinary to be the size that they are. That’s just how they are, and there’s nothing less “real” about them.
I’ve always been a fan of plus-size models! There’s a great site with many images of plus-size models here:
http://www.judgmentofparis.com/
They’re all gorgeous. The site’s forum also features many thought-provoking discussions on body image.
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